I think being a parent, full stop, can be tough. Being a single parent it becomes slightly tougher. Not having that other person to rely on, I think it’s good to have a good support networkand knowing who’s around that you can call on when you need to.
An example of that was I did leave work on time one day and I was caught in trafficand the school shuts at 6.30pm and not being able to get there in time due to an accident on the highway, I was stuck. That I had to ring somebody to get someone to go and help. And I felt terrible at the time, thinking, oh my gosh I didn’t plan well enough.
But then you have to sit back and realise that these things happen. There’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t, obviously emergency services, you know, take priority and other people are there if youneed the help, to help out and go and pick up the kids.
And I remember at the time my Auntie didn’t have a car seat so she went and got the kids some dinner and sat in the car in the carpark and waited for us to get there late. And the kids were happy, they were fine. You know I think it was more mum stressing about what was happening than the kids. I think we do need to remember who is around us and who we can call to if needed. And it would make our lives a lot simpler and realising that we can’t plan for everything, every little incidental that happens in life.
I think as parents we often bottle things up. We don’t realise that when we’re bottling things up that it’s not solving the problem, it’s just you know building up, building up. And things can almost explode when we do that. And you know, it is OK to ask for help in this, you know, this thing called parenting, that, you know, everyone said would be so easy and so fun and it isn’t always that easy to just sail through life with kids. Asking for help is a huge step forward.