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So I have 6 kids. And my youngest is 1 or soon to be 1.

And I guess, sometimes it’s hard, to sort of, you know, juggle when she was born, juggle everyday life. So everyday life doesn’t sort of stop but when you have other kids that you’ve got to, sort of run around after, you can’t really stop cause they still have to go and do things that they need to do.

When she was first born I’d ask for help from friends and family. Especially trying to get other kids to places that they needed to do for school or sports or just to even go to a friend’s house. You know if I was really tired and couldn’t drive them I’d have to ring up my sister ora friend that was going to the same activity as them, just so I can catch up on some sleep or try to do some cleaning. When you’re a parent there’s constant worry about a million things that could happen or could not happen. So yeah, I think, that’s usually the hardest. Or self-doubt, doubting yourself, that’s a hard thing as well.

Talking to other parents, yeah it does make you feel good because you kind of find out that what you’re going through is normal. That everybody goes through it. That you’re not alone. Like, when your kids waking up 5 times a night, you’re not the only one who’s kids waking up 5 times in the middle of the night. When you’re having trouble toilet training your son, you’re not the only one who’s kids just not wanting to go to the toilet. Or you’re not the only one who has a teenager that’s talking back to them. So it helps to actually, you know, feel normal. That, you know, other parents don’t have this fairy tale story. That their life is not just as wonderful as it is, I guess, on TV, when you kind of watch TV and you think, oh, why can’t my kids be like that? You know, like talking to everyday parents makes you feel like, oh, you know, actuallyI’m doing a good job because they’re struggling as much as I am. You know, they’re still here. They’re still sane.

Last Updated: 25 June 2020