#BeingPresent is its own reward

Primary school Parental growth

Have you ever put your feet up at the end of the working week only to realise that the time has whizzed by? Sometimes it’s hard to even remember the route we took to get home or what we ate for lunch that day when our mind is buzzing with the stress of our busy schedules.

Being present in everyday life isn’t easy. Especially when we’re consumed with keeping the house clean, preparing meals, organising appointments, and meeting deadlines. Sometimes our working hours are out of sync with our kid’s or partner’s, and then kids also have their own homework and extra activities to throw into the mix. So, making time to be present with family can feel like an out-of-reach luxury, right?

But taking time to make the most of family is important. A 2018 study by the Australian Psychological Society found that 1 in 4 Australians feel lonely. If we’re feeling lonely, we can be lacking meaningful relationships to enrichen our lives, or spending too little time with friends, family and neighbours.

The Queensland Family and Child Commission’s Growing Up in Queensland survey saw that kids value quality time with their parents, carers and family as being particularly important. Quality time with family helps kids create a sense of balance around school and life outside of school.

But when spending time with our kids, it’s not enough to simply go through the motions. Being present, aware and enjoying the moment is a necessary part of creating meaningful encounters and enriched relationships with our kids.

So, it’s important to make sure we’re present when spending time with our loved ones at home. Being present is not only good for us, but models healthy behaviours for our children to use when they’re feeling stressed or lonely themselves.

You might be beginning to wonder, what does being present look like? Think back to strong memories you have of spending time with your family. Maybe you remember the expressions on their faces, what they were saying, or even how the weather felt against your skin. If your senses were in action, taking note of the sights, sounds and smells around you, its likely that these are moments you were present in.

The Talking Families Facebook community will be discussing interesting ways to be present with family throughout this month. Join the conversation and share with us your favourite #beingpresent moments!

Last Updated: 25 June 2020